Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harmProverbs 13:20
What is a fool? We all make silly mistakes, but a fool is one who is unchanging, a person who does not learn from their mistakes. It’s important to identify foolishness in others, and stay away from them, as their mistakes or consistent thoughtless actions will eventually burden your life or distract you as well.
I didn’t always think that way, I’m sure many of us always strive to pull up our friends and family members and impart wisdom on them as we learn it. In college, I had a roommate who was truly foolish. I denied it, and worked hard to help her through her self-imposed struggles, especially since we were just in our early twenties. After 5 years or so, I was growing tired of this dynamic, but she moved away so I figured I was finally off the hook. In all honesty, I was struggling to pay my student loans at the time and resorted to dodging the constant bill collector calls I had started receiving. Finally, after months of being harassed by these calls, panic attacks about my finances, and feeling like I would never be able to resolve my outstanding loans, I decided to answer one of the calls. Low and behold, the bill collector asked for my roommate, by her full name. It dawned on me that all of my woes of the last few months (some self-imposed by my own anxiety) was all a result of the irresponsible nature of my ex-roommate, and her sharing my personal information with lenders.
Luckily, the calls stopped after I set things straight with the company, but it showed me that I needed to back away from her. When I confronted her about it, she made excuses and played the victim instead of apologizing for involving me in her financial troubles. I thought to myself, “sure, it was just a phone call every day for three months, but if I’m being chased by her bill collectors, what else may happen if I stay around?”
Take a serious look at the people around you. Their issues and demons will jump off onto you the longer you stick around them. It’s okay to back away for your peace of mind.
love them, don’t enable
that’s more helpful
say less, be unavailable,
pray for them
let Him intervene